Sometimes friendship can be hard. Do you say something or not? Do you let your friend make a mistake or not? Do you risk the wrath of said friend by poking your nose in the friend’s private affairs? Some believe that it is their duty based on love for their friends to meddle. Some feel that if their friends don’t listen then they can no longer be friends. Some feel that the best method is to express one’s opinion and then leave it alone. That would be my method of choice.
Having made more mistakes than good choices in this lifetime, I refuse to judge anyone again. Oh, believe me, it hasn’t been easy keeping that promise to myself. So many times, I find myself judging before I remember, by the grace of God, that I, too, have made similar errors in judgment, if not the exact same.
But the bottom line is this: it’s not really any of my business if my friend chooses not to listen to me. My business is to love that friend unconditionally and to be there for that friend if I turn out to be right and my friend was wrong. In these cases, I like to be wrong. Too often though, I’m not.
So, if you have loved ones who refuse to follow your advice that has been tested and tried, don’t fret. Allow them to live their lives, love them complete with their flaws, and be there when they fall if they fall. In the long run, they will love and appreciate you more. And if they have any character at all, they’ll even admit that you were right and they were wrong.
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